Role of Trust in any Relationship

Role of Trust in any Relationship


Trust is the most important element of any relationship: love, marriage, family, friendship and even professional relationships. Great onus is placed on the 'family bond' in India. In Indian society that is still predominantly traditional, trust forms the center of the value system. The bond between siblings, parents, husband and wife, and the family at large is deep rooted in trust and loyalty. This is perhaps the key factor that enables the family to remain as the primary social unit within the social system of the country. The value of trust that emanates from the family influences the actions of every individual and impacts every relationship. This is evident in the person's general social behavior and also shapes general understanding.


 


Every relationship needs trust to survive. So, when your trust is betrayed, it can be very hurtful, you may lose faith in the person, relationship, or even yourself. Trust is also one of the hardest things to regain, and takes a lot of patience and perseverance. This might lead you to question if trust can truly be regained once it is broken. While the road to recovery is not always the same for everyone, here are some general aspects to keep in mind while attempting such a feat.


 


Things to Remember 


You are not alone:Everyone deals with betrayal in large or small ways.


Time heals all wounds:Time is what the mind needs to make peace with any circumstance.


You are capable:You have the ability to set things right, and allow the other a chance to do the same. 


 


What to Do


Lend an ear:Listen to what the other has to say and listen carefully.


Be open: Listen with an open mind and be open to suggestions.


Apologize: Accept apologies not excuses, and acknowledge your mistakes if there are any.


Provide Comfort: Strengthen yourself and stay away from self-doubt, also comfort the other. Remember that when trust is broken both parties are hurt in different ways.


Communicate:Speak your mind openly, and be clear and honest about what hurt you and what your needs are. Allow the other to communicate the same.


Contemplate:Think about all aspects of the situation and rationalize about how you may or may not have contributed to it.


 


What to Avoid


Prejudice:Assumptions help no one. Listen to all the information before reacting.


Warnings:Threats work against the favor of any relationship. They promote helplessness, anger and hatred.  Avoid sentences like “If this is repeated...” or “This is your last chance...”


Breaking promises:Keep your promises, hold the other to theirs, and don’t make promises that you can't keep.


Holding Grudges:Forgive and, more importantly, forget. Do not bring up the past and agonize yourself and the other. It adds to the pain.


Ultimatums:Giving ultimatums will hurt you if these are not met and hurt the other if these can't be met.


 


Find hope in yourself and confide in family or friends, sharing helps reduce burden. Remember that some compromise is necessary from both ends. If all efforts are counterproductive, ask for help and speak to a counselor. Expert advice is crucial to overcoming barriers and taking the right actions to avoid further complications.

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